As a frum couples therapist, I wasn’t surprised by the recent study showing that women who do most of the housework often feel less desire for intimacy. It’s not about the cleaning itself, it’s about feeling like life is out of balance. When a wife feels like the load of running a home falls mostly on her, it leaves little room for connection. Real partnership in marriage isn’t just about showing up in the bedroom, it’s about showing up in the kitchen, the laundry room, and everywhere in between